INTRODUCTION of my New Book “The Eve Dilemma”


“How to Overcome the #1 Temptation Every Woman will Face in Becoming Who She is Destined to Be.”

Answering the questions, “Who am I?” and “What is my Purpose as a Christian Woman?” can be some of the hardest, most challenging questions in a Christian Woman’s life. For many women, our lives have been impacted and defined by the culture, life experiences, or the decisions we’ve made on our own about how to define and live out our Identity and Womanhood.  Before we can ever answer these questions, we must overcome the #1 temptation and purposefully decide to trust and allow God’s purpose and plan for our Identity to be reflected through our lives, but this is not always an easy task.  Because of this challenge, many women fail to covenant their their Identity and Womanhood to God, and in turn, they end up dealing with an Identity Crisis, not truly understanding that God sees women as His Image Bearers and we reflect who he is in the earth through our Identity and Womanhood Journey for his purpose and glory!  

Don’t despair; you are not in this journey alone.  Eve had the same challenges with the #1 temptation. Through examination of Eve’s Dilemma, Stephanie Kirkland gives us a comprehensive look at the importance of making a covenant regarding our Identity to the purpose and plan of God, which helps us build our Identity, Womanhood and Purpose.  Eve will inspire and help us look at ourselves by using her life story as a mirror for our own journey.  Through her life we see ourselves.  We see our challenges.  We see our questions.  Now, get your answers.  

 By following the 7 principles laid out in Isaiah 32, you will have the foundational information and tools to help you covenant your Identity to God and overcome the #1 temptation every woman will face in becoming who she is destined to be.  You will understand that through God, each of us can become fully and freely the Women he created and redeemed us to be, and fulfill our purpose as his Image Bearers in the earth through our Identity and Womanhood Journey.

pebbles26 STEPHANIE M. KIRKLAND is an Author, Certified Personal Growth Coach and Minister who is passionately living and pursuing her best self and life through a faith inspired perspective.  She empowers people just like you to grow personally, professionally and in ministry.  Her thought provoking, interactive, life altering IN PURSUIT OF ME! Groups, Courses, Workshops and Resources provide the necessary tools to prompt YOU to discover and pursue living and becoming your best self.  Stephanie lives in Charlotte with her husband and sons.

Why do I need Personal Development?

Slide14Someone was asking me about what IN PURSUIT OF ME! Personal Development Program was all about.  I told her it was for women on the journey of self discovery and personal growth, who want to walk in their purpose and full potential by becoming their best selves.  These women desire to develop their unique individuality (authentic self) designed by God.  They understand that their uniqueness is designed to impact every area of their life and the different roles and responsibilities they walk out on a daily basis.  

She asked, “Why do I need personal development if I have faith?” I said, “Personal Development is a Journey.  It BEGINS with faith/belief, but then we must take responsibility to apply our faith/belief to become self aware, gain knowledge, grow and improve the skills necessary to fulfill purpose and BE our Best Selves.   Faith/beliefs under girds that journey. It is up to us to take responsibility and walk it out in our “daily lives”.  

I explained that Personal Development was “PURPOSEFUL PURSUIT of PERSONAL Slide16GROWTH for the fulfillment of Purpose”.  EACH OF US taking the personal responsibility for the “application” of faith/beliefs in our daily lives.  It is the “HOW TO” or the application of our beliefs for our development not just for spiritual growth and development but spirit, soul and body.  All must be actively working together in order for us to fulfill our purpose and reach our full potential.  So the purpose of personal development is taping into and DEVELOPING the “greatness” that God put on the inside of us, so we can accomplish all he has destined for our lives.  God “expects” us to invest, grow, develop, use and become our best” with what he has put in us so He is ultimately glorified in our lives.  Many understand and desire to accomplish what they are destined and purposed, but don’t know how.

Personal Development, Self Discovery, Personal Growth, Personal Achievement, Personal Success and Personal Improvement in the different areas of our lives doesn’t just happen.  It is a process that covers our mental, spiritual, social, character, behavioral, relational, physical, financial, and emotional selves.  When we understand that God told us to “choose life and live”, “treat our bodies as temples” or “renew our minds”, he was giving US the RESPONSIBILITY to “apply and develop” ourselves for purpose through the principles, wisdom, pillars, laws and knowledge set forth for us.  Many are taught that GOD will do everything for them, never realizing that there is a part they play in the equation.  As Miles Monroe states, “the graveyards are FULL of unrealized and untapped potential.”

God created us to be “response – able” to what he has put on the inside of us.  We CAN respond and he has made us able.  We DON’T have to be left searching for purpose and meaning in our lives.  We are able to live IN PURPOSE and BECOME our Best Selves, which is necessary to “release” the gifts, talents, abilities, destiny, purpose and full potential that resides on the inside.  Personal Development gives the “how to” in order to walk in purpose and release full potential. I told her, “Many are growing spiritually, but go unfulfilled and it doesn’t have to be that way.   So we all NEED Personal Development.

Personal Development is

1. Purposeful Pursuit: You are intentionally developing who you need to “become” to fulfill your purpose and develop your full potential

2. Personal Growth: You are developing yourself spirit, soul and body for the development of your full potential for Purpose.

3. Discovery: You discover your unique individuality, gifts, talents, abilities, potential

4. Expansion:  You become self aware, gain knowledge and develop your personal skills

5. Refining:  You learn your beliefs, values, responsibilities and truth and how this applies to your growth and purpose.

6. Holistic:  You are looking at every area of your life and developing yourself spiritually, socially, emotionally, mentally, physically, relationally, financially and applying it to the different roles and responsibilities you impact on a daily basis.

7. PURPOSE driven: It helps you discover and develop yourself for the fulfillment of your purpose and equips you to be successful at whatever endeavors you connect to in relationship to your purpose.

8. GOAL focused: You learn how to develop and reach your goals which leads to the fulfillment of purpose and potential.

9. Glorifying God: You are pursuing the development of what God has put in you from the foundations of the world.  You are honoring him by becoming your Best Self because it releases purpose and increase into your life



Friday, September 13th, 2013 | 7:00 pm – 8:00 pm (EST)

Reserve your Spot (click link)

FALL is a time of “transition”. Children go back to school and the year is coming to an end. We begin to analyze our lives and feel a “rush” to get it together.

It is so easy to get lost in the chaos. IT’S NEVER TO LATE TO BEGIN! That’s why I’m offering a tele-class this fall just for YOU! I want you empowered to help you remember that YOU are important too!

  •  Learn to break limiting beliefs that keep you from moving forward towards your goals.
  •  How to create a shift in your mindset, behavior and actions, so they work together for you.
  • How to maintain peace of mind in your difficult circumstances
  • The importance of BECOMING your Best Self in order to fulfill your PURPOSE and Destiny.

Personal Growth & Self Discovery EQUIPS you to BECOME who you NEED to be for Success (personally, socially, emotionally, relationally and in business) and to LIVE in the confident fullness of your PURPOSE. You develop the mindset, skills, discipline, healing and direction you need to move forward.

 *The Call In Number and Code will be forwarded to your email. 


4 Ways to Stay Focused

finishFocus and Consistency are the Keys to Victory.  We must “actively” hold on to our choices and let nothing move you out of your decision. SOME THINGS TO DO.

1. WRITE IT What do you want in your situation(s)? Write it down. It WILL help you focus and plan out your steps one at a time.

 2. WHAT’S THE FOUNDATION Find a scripture, wisdom or principle to stand on that speaks to your situation. It will increase your “faith”.  Faith is what makes hope work. Hope is expectation of what you are looking to manifest in your situation.
3. FOCUS Stay focused, surround yourself with things that edify your destination (tapes, scripture, people, music).

4. SPEAK Consistently speak truth and positive words in and over your circumstance.We can not always control what comes at us, but we can control what we do with it!